Thursday, January 11, 2007


I’ve been thinking about cycles lately. How things arrive in your life, morph into something else, and then leave. I have always been the type of person to keep things around for a long time, even when they have outgrown all usefulness. There are times when I just want to chuck it all and be done with everything and everyone I have ever known and just start over. Sometimes I wonder if, save a few, that wouldn’t be the best thing for me to do? Is there a point where you have given and gotten everything you can with a person and that it would be better just to leave it at the memories and move on? Maybe there is or maybe not. Maybe the more you get to know some people the more you realize they don’t really understand what it is that you expect from them. Maybe you realize that they just don’t get who you are and why you are friends. Is there room in life for people like that?

Being the type of person who rarely has a large group of friends to begin with, I have always thought that the ones I did have were really special. They are the type of people that I would do just about anything for. That is why I keep them around. Sometimes I wonder if it is more effort that it is worth though. Then again, I don’t put out much effort to keep my friends around so I guess I have no reason to complain. I hate calling people. I don’t know why but I just don’t like it. Since most of my friends are not close by I suppose I have somewhat of a hard time keeping up. They know I love them though.

I don’t really know where I was going with this post. I don’t think it has much of a point at all. I think I’ll just leave it here. I’ll just add in a fun blogthing that I took from Shadowfalcon to divert the strangeness.

What Kind of Reader Are You?
Your Result: Obsessive-Compulsive Bookworm

You're probably in the final stages of a Ph.D. or otherwise finding a way to make your living out of reading. You are one of the literati. Other people's grammatical mistakes make you insane.

Dedicated Reader
Literate Good Citizen
Book Snob
Fad Reader
What Kind of Reader Are You?
Create Your Own Quiz

1. True love will find you in the end, you'll find out just who is your friend.

2. Hey girl stop what you're doing. Hey girl you'll drive me to ruin.

3. Girl, the only thing that matters in my life is that I'm down for you and treat you right.

4. Born to be a god among salesmen. working the skinny tie.

5. Come along with me to my little corner of the world.


notfearingchange said...

Well its interesting that you state all of this....
1. Physical things you can buy again. throw them as more stuff nails you down.
2. Boyfriends you can f*ck and run and never think about them again.
3. Friends are hard....depends on how intricate they are in your social networks...

But I saw the best card recently so as to aid in ending a and white with flowers and in the middle in nice black typeface the words: "FUCK YOU".
I think if you're going to end a friendship that's a good card to do it with.

Eve said...

That is a very good question you posed. I often ask myself that as well. And I don't know the answer! Are there some friends who are just keeping you back from being who you want to be? And if they don't totally get you, maybe you aren't letting them in? But if they aren't even bothering, or if they don't care, fuck 'em. That's my (kind of annoyed at the moment) two cents.

Natalie said...

i don't want to get rid of any friends. I was just having an odd conversation and it just got me thinking. You both have good points though. I just wanted to clarify cause I don't want any friends to think I have gone insane.

Mrs. Loquacious said...

My life is full of clutter. Our storage room is cluttered, my spice shelf is cluttered, my fridge is cluttered, my freezer...YIKES...and of course, I have boxes of books still at my bro's place in the storage room in the basement.

It is good to have stuff, but there's a fine line between "enough" and "too much" and I think I've crossed it many times over. Hopefully our next move will be a big purge fest.

Mom said...

Clutter! Aaakkk!
I've been slowly trying to get rid of some, with only limited success so far. (Although my living room, on good days, looks amazingly serene and open.) The tricky aspect is to get rid of stuff I really don't want or need while still keeping the meaningful stuff in a way that is useful. Still working on that... (And I don't like those "anti-clutter" TV shows where they make people throw away things like their grandma's prize collection of vintage jazz albums. Pu-lease.)

I liked the reading quiz.

ShadowFalcon said...

I hope books dont count a clutter.

I can't help but keep stuff, this is why I make scrap books.

Lizza said...

I keep lots of useless things way past their use-by date. If "friends" always drag you down, then they're not really "friends" (and if you do the same thing to someone, neither are you). But many friendships thrive without day-to-day contact, like the ones you have with your friends. :-)